Before I started growing spiritually, when I heard the word "affirmations" I'll be honest, my first thought was Stuart Smalley, the hilarious SNL character who would look in the mirror and say,
"I am good enough, I am smart enough, and gosh darn it, people like me!" Oh Stuart.
Much later in life, I found the incomparable Louise Hay, thank goodness. Louise is the OG self-help spiritual goddess who is responsible for so many of the practices that I utilized when I was dealing with chronic migraine (don't worry, that's another post). The foundation of her work is self-love and she believes that most of our problems are rooted in the fact that we don't love ourselves enough. I'll never forget how uncomfortable I felt when I first started doing Louise Hay affirmations. Looking in the mirror, telling myself, "I love you, I really really love you," at first felt first funny (I laughed), then awkward (I hope nobody sees me), and then sad (I cried). Why was I crying?! Because it had certainly been a long time since I had shown myself self-love. In fact, there were several ways in which I was betraying myself on the regs, most notably by playing small.
For me playing small looked like not owning my strength, grace, grit, or authentic power. It was choosing projects for the recognition or potential advancement. It was one drink turning into three. It was not speaking up. It was not shutting down the bully. It was not living up to my potential. You know, just a few things.
So today's post is a tool for all of us to create affirmations to use when we catch ourselves playing small.
Now listen, I get that you may not be able to go into the bathroom at work and look in the mirror and say these to yourself. I get it. But if the only thing you can do is repeat your personal power affirmation silently to yourself, than that is a lovely start. After all, the thoughts that we think create our realities.
So if you've ever walked out of any kind of setting and wished that you just would have spoken up, or shut up, or shared your idea, or said no, or said yes, or stayed in your truth, or loved yourself more... than this one's for you.
Crafting a Personal Power Affirmation
1. Write down an adjective for 3 people you admire most when it comes to demonstrating authentic personal power
(a) ___________________ (b) ________________________ (c) ___________________
2. Write 3 action verbs that describe you when you're firing on all cylinders and truly at your best
(d) ___________________ (e) ________________________ (f) ___________________
3. Now it's time for Affirmation Madlibs. Fill in the blanks, writing down these personal power affirmations, using the words above or new words that come to you as you write. Once you're done, practice saying, singing, chanting, or rewriting them over and over until you really believe them. Write them in your gratitude journal. Bonus points if you actually do say these to yourself in the mirror. Triple bonus points if the mirror is at work.
I feel ________ when I am ___________.
I radiate ___________ when I ______________.
Today, I will be ______________.
Fear is a four letter word. Right now I choose ______________ instead.
Never again will I betray myself by ______________________. Next time, I will proudly _______________________.
And just in case you're an SNL fan like me:
I am _______________, I am _______________, and gosh darn it, people _______________!